How do we split chores fairly?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to keep the house running, but you and your partner keep fighting about who does the chores.

Chores cause conflict.

Causes & evidence

Talk openly and make a plan. See conflict communication.

What to do

1. List chores.
2. Divide by preference and time.
3. Review monthly.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: keeping silent score. List all tasks, including invisible ones like planning, and divide them openly. Check in regularly. Talk about standards, like how clean is clean enough, since that's often the real argument. Play to each other's preferences and schedules. Make a simple shared list or chart. Swap chores occasionally so you both understand the work. Thank each other. If one partner has a lot more paid work hours, balance can look different, so discuss it openly. Revisit the plan when life changes, like a new baby or job. Fairness doesn't always mean exactly 50/50; it means both of you feel the split is fair. Thank-yous count.

Speed Man tip: Appreciate each other's work.

Wrap-up: List. Divide. Review.