My partner says I'm imagining things. Is this gaslighting?
How do I know if I'm being gaslit?
Concerns & risks
You were trying to trust your memory, but your partner keeps saying things you remember never happened.
Gaslighting erodes trust in yourself.
Causes & evidence
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse. See healthy relationship signs.
What to do
- Write down events.
- Talk to trusted people.
- Contact loveisrespect.org.
Common mistakes: Common mistakes: doubting yourself completely. Gaslighting is when someone makes you question your memory or reality. Keep notes of events. Talk to trusted people. If it's a pattern with other control, reach out for support. Signs can include denying things you clearly remember, telling you that you're too sensitive or crazy, twisting facts, and turning friends against you. Write events down soon after they happen, including dates. Over time this helps you trust your own memory. Notice if you feel confused or anxious around them a lot. A counselor can help you sort through it. If it's part of controlling behavior, the hotline can also help.
Speed Man tip: Your feelings are valid. If you feel unsafe, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233).
Wrap-up: Write. Talk. Support.
⚡ Speed Summary
- Write.
- Talk.
- Support.
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