What if I'm afraid of my partner?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to keep the peace at home, but sometimes you feel scared of your partner.

Fear is a serious warning sign.

Causes & evidence

Fear in a relationship is a sign of abuse. See healthy relationship signs.

What to do

1. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788).
2. Make a safety plan.
3. Call 911 if in danger.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: blaming yourself or waiting for things to get worse. Fear in a relationship is a serious sign. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788). If in immediate danger, call 911. Warning signs of abuse include threats, hitting, pushing, controlling money, cutting you off from people you love, and extreme jealousy. Abuse isn't your fault. Advocates can help you make a safety plan, which might include a bag with important documents, a safe place to go, and a code word with a friend. Use a safe device to look up resources, and clear your browser history if your partner checks your devices. If you have children, include them in your plan. Local shelters and legal aid can help with protective orders.

Speed Man tip: You aren't alone.

Wrap-up: Hotline. Safety plan. 911.