How do I know if I'm being love bombed?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to enjoy a new relationship, but it feels like too much, too fast.

Intensity can feel like romance.

Causes & evidence

Extreme early attention can be a manipulation tactic, including in scams. See romance scams and healthy relationship signs.

What to do

1. Slow down.
2. Watch for pressure.
3. Keep friends close.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: mistaking intensity for compatibility. Love bombing means overwhelming someone with affection and gifts early on, which can be followed by control. Slow things down and notice how they react. Other signs include constant texts and calls, pressure to commit or move in quickly, and making you feel guilty for time with friends. Healthy partners are happy to go at a pace that suits both of you. Tell them you'd like to slow down and see how they react. Respect is a good sign; anger or guilt-tripping is a warning. Keep seeing friends and keep your own routines. Talk to someone outside the relationship for perspective. If it turns into control or fear, reach out to the hotline.

Speed Man tip: Healthy love grows steadily.

Wrap-up: Slow. Pressure. Friends.