How do I handle a tantrum in public?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to finish shopping, but your kid started screaming in the checkout line and everyone was staring.

Public tantrums are embarrassing.

Causes & evidence

Stay calm; tantrums are normal. See toddler tantrums.

What to do

1. Move to a quiet spot.
2. Stay calm.
3. Don't give in.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: worrying more about strangers than your child. Stay calm, make sure your child is safe, and if needed, move to a quieter spot. Don't give in to the demand. Offer comfort when the storm passes. Plan shorter trips and bring snacks. Before going in, explain what's going to happen and how you expect them to behave. Give them a job, like holding the list or picking the apples. Shop when they're rested and fed. Praise them for good behavior during the trip. If a tantrum starts, stay calm and quiet. It's okay to leave the store if needed and come back later. Most people around you have seen a tantrum before, and many parents feel the same embarrassment. Breathe, and remember it will pass.

Speed Man tip: Plan shopping after naps.

Wrap-up: Quiet. Calm. Consistent.