How do I support a friend in a bad relationship?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to help a friend whose partner seems controlling, but you don't know what to say.

Friends can help.

Causes & evidence

Listen without judgment and share resources. See healthy relationship signs.

What to do

1. Listen.
2. Share loveisrespect or the Hotline.
3. Respect their decisions.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: giving ultimatums or criticizing the partner harshly, which can push your friend away. Listen without judgment. Tell your friend you care about them and you're there no matter what. Ask how they feel and what they need. Share specific things you've noticed, without forcing them to agree. Respect their choices, even when it's hard, since leaving can be complicated and dangerous. Offer practical help, like a place to stay or a ride. Share resources like the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Stay in touch, since isolation is a common tactic of abusers. Take care of yourself too, because supporting someone can be draining.

Speed Man tip: Stay connected.

Wrap-up: Listen. Resources. Respect.