How do I stop sibling fights?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to have a calm afternoon, but your kids have fought nonstop since breakfast.

Sibling fights stress families.

Causes & evidence

Stay neutral and teach problem-solving. See toddler tantrums.

What to do

1. Separate if needed.
2. Help them name feelings.
3. Praise cooperation.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: always stepping in to decide who's right. When possible, let kids work out small conflicts, coaching them on how to take turns or compromise. Step in if anyone gets hurt. Avoid comparing siblings. Spend one-on-one time with each child. Set clear family rules about respect. Praise them when they cooperate. Teach kids conflict skills when everyone is calm: using words, taking turns, and asking an adult for help. Separate them for a short break if things get heated. Make sure each child has some personal space and belongings they don't have to share. Notice patterns, like fights when they're hungry or tired, and plan around them. Hold family meetings to set rules together. Model calm disagreement with other adults.

Speed Man tip: Avoid comparing kids.

Wrap-up: Separate. Name. Praise.