What are red flags in a relationship?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to enjoy getting to know someone new, but a friend warned you to watch out for red flags, and now you're wondering what those look like.

Early signs matter.

Causes & evidence

Jealousy, control, isolation and disrespect are warning signs. See healthy relationship signs.

What to do

1. Notice how they treat you when you say no.
2. Watch for pressure or guilt.
3. Talk to trusted friends.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: explaining away early warning signs. Red flags can include extreme jealousy, trying to cut you off from friends and family, checking your phone, insults disguised as jokes, rushing commitment, and anger when you say no. Pay attention to how they treat others, like waitstaff. Trust your gut. Discuss what you notice with someone you trust. If you feel unsafe, reach out for help. Notice also how they respond to your boundaries.

Speed Man tip: Red flags rarely disappear on their own. If you feel unsafe, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233).

Wrap-up: Control. Jealousy. Pressure.