What should I do on a first date?

Concerns & risks

You were trying to prepare for a first date, but your nerves are through the roof.

Nerves are normal.

Causes & evidence

Keep it simple and safe.

What to do

1. Meet in public.
2. Tell a friend your plans.
3. Ask questions and listen.

Common mistakes: Common mistakes: planning something too long or expensive. Choose a public place and a short activity, like coffee or a walk. Ask open-ended questions and listen. Be yourself. Tell a friend where you'll be. Arrange your own transport. Put the phone away during the date so you're present. Have a few topics in mind, like favorite foods, travel, or hobbies. It's fine to be a little nervous; most people are. Don't drink too much. At the end, be honest if you'd like to meet again. If not, a kind and clear 'Thanks, I had a nice time, but I don't feel a match' is respectful. If anything feels wrong, leave.

Speed Man tip: Watch for pushy behavior: healthy relationship signs.

Wrap-up: Public. Tell friend. Listen.

Want the why behind it? Read Romance Scams in the wiki.